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Let’s be honest—growing a YouTube channel isn’t as simple as pressing the record button and hoping for the best. If it were, we'd all be viral sensations by now. The truth is, success on YouTube isn’t just about creating content; it’s about connection. It’s about understanding your viewers on a deeper level and, most importantly, stepping into their well-worn (and sometimes slightly smelly) shoes.
 
YouTube is more than just a video platform; it’s a place where people come to learn, connect, and be entertained. Whether they’re searching for "how to fix a leaky faucet" or "how to survive a toddler meltdown without losing your mind," viewers arrive with a mission. And if you want to win their hearts (and their precious watch time), you need to see the world through their eyes.
 
But here’s where many creators get it wrong. Instead of focusing on what their audience actually needs, they create content based on what they find interesting. It’s like offering snow boots to someone living in the tropics—thoughtful, maybe, but completely off the mark.
 
I learned this lesson years ago when I worked at the very first Wal-Mart to open in my neck of the woods. That job changed my life—not only because I met my wife, Jodell, but because I saw firsthand what happens when a company doesn’t truly know its audience.
 
Jodell was part of the team setting up a brand-new store in northern Maine, tasked with unloading freight. But despite being in management, she had no say in what products hit the shelves. That was all decided by the home office, which—bless their hearts—shipped boxes upon boxes of snake-bite kits.
 
Now here’s the kicker—the last known venomous snake in Maine, a timber rattlesnake, was last documented in 1860. That’s right. Over a century ago. So there she was, with boxes of snake-bite kits in a place where the biggest threat was black flies and the occasional rogue moose.
 
You see, Wal-Mart made the classic mistake of assuming they knew what their customers needed. Someone from the South, where snake bites are a real concern, figured northern Mainers needed the same thing. Had they taken the time to understand their audience, they would have realized those kits were about as useful as a plastic spoon in a snowstorm.
 
And here’s the thing—this same kind of mistake happens on YouTube all the time.
 
Creators talk about things they know, in words they understand, to an audience they think they understand. They create content that they want to make, with the expectation that people will watch it—only to hear crickets. Why? Because they never stopped to ask the most important questions:
 
👉 What does my audience really need?
👉 What are their struggles?
👉 What questions are they asking?
👉 What keeps them up at night?
 
Walking in your audience’s shoes means going beyond surface-level assumptions. It’s about engaging with them, reading their comments, diving into their pain points, and truly listening.
 
If you're already part of that audience and speaking to your past self, you’ve got a leg up—so to speak. But even then, there's more work to do to ensure you're truly serving their needs.
 
So, practically speaking—how can you really walk in the shoes of your audience?
 
Let’s lace up and dive in.
 

 
📚 DOING YOUR RESEARCH: PLACES TO FIND ANSWERS
If you want to truly connect with your audience, you can’t rely on guesswork. Understanding their needs, frustrations, and desires requires a bit of good old-fashioned research. The good news? You don’t need a detective’s magnifying glass—just a willingness to dig into the right places and pay attention to the details.
 
The first step in walking in your audience’s shoes is figuring out where they hang out and what they’re talking about. Think of it like being a fly on the wall, quietly observing and gathering valuable insights before you jump in with your content. So, where can you find these golden nuggets of information?
 
1️⃣ COMMENT SECTIONS (YOURS AND THEIRS)
Start with the obvious—your own comment section. If people are already engaging with your content, they’re handing you a roadmap to what they want. Look for recurring questions, common pain points, and even casual remarks about what they’d like to see next.
 
But don’t stop at your own backyard—check out the comment sections of other creators in your niche. What are people asking? What’s resonating with them? Sometimes, a casual comment on a competitor’s video can spark your next viral idea.
 
2️⃣ ONLINE FORUMS AND GROUPS
Communities like Reddit, Facebook Groups, and niche forums are a goldmine of audience insights. People go to these places to vent, ask questions, and seek advice—sometimes with brutal honesty. Search for topics related to your niche and see what challenges people are facing. Bonus tip: Take note of how they describe their problems; it’s the exact language you’ll want to use in your content.
 
3️⃣ SOCIAL MEDIA LISTENING
Twitter (now X), Instagram, TikTok, and even LinkedIn (depending on your niche) are overflowing with conversations. Use search functions, hashtags, and trending topics to see what’s buzzing in your community. What memes are they sharing? What frustrations are getting the most likes? These platforms provide real-time insights into what’s on your audience’s mind.
 
4️⃣ YOUTUBE SEARCH AND AUTOCOMPLETE
Want to know what your audience is searching for? Just start typing in YouTube’s search bar and let autocomplete do the work. The suggestions that pop up are based on what real people are searching for. Tools like TubeBuddy and VidIQ can take this a step further by showing search volume and competition for specific terms.
 
5️⃣ AMAZON AND BOOK REVIEWS
Believe it or not, product and book reviews are a fantastic way to understand your audience’s needs. If your niche has related products or books, dive into the review section. What are people loving? What are they complaining about? These insights can help you craft content that fills the gaps they’re experiencing.
 
6️⃣ SURVEYS AND POLLS
If you already have an audience, never underestimate the power of simply asking them. Polls on YouTube, Instagram, or even email surveys can give you direct feedback on what your audience wants to see. Just keep your questions short and sweet—people love to share their opinions but hate filling out long forms.
 
7️⃣ ANALYTICS: LET THE DATA TALK
Numbers don’t lie. Your YouTube analytics offer a treasure trove of insights. Check out your audience demographics, watch time, and most importantly, retention rates. What videos are they sticking around for? Where do they drop off? Patterns in your analytics can reveal what topics and styles resonate most with your viewers.
 
By taking the time to research and truly listen to your audience, you’ll be armed with the knowledge to create content that meets them exactly where they are. After all, the better you understand them, the better you can serve them.
 
Now that you've done your research, it's time for the next step—becoming an active listener.
 

 
🎯 LISTEN BEFORE YOU SPEAK: TALKING DIRECTLY TO YOUR AUDIENCE
Now that you've done your research, it's time for the next step—becoming an active listener. It’s not enough to know where your audience hangs out; you need to engage with them, understand their struggles, and tune in to what they’re really saying.
 
Too many creators fall into the trap of talking at their audience instead of with them. They focus on what they think their viewers want rather than paying attention to what their viewers are actually saying. But listening isn’t just about hearing words—it’s about grasping the emotions, frustrations, and aspirations behind those words.
 
1️⃣ READ BETWEEN THE LINES
Comments, emails, and social media messages are full of valuable insights, but the key is to look beyond the surface. When someone says, “I’m struggling with this,” the real question is why? What’s truly causing their frustration? Is it a lack of information, confidence, or time? By digging deeper, you’ll uncover the core of their challenges and create content that speaks directly to their needs.
 
2️⃣ ENGAGE IN CONVERSATIONS
Becoming an active listener doesn’t mean sitting back silently—it means participating. Respond to comments, ask follow-up questions, and take part in conversations happening in your niche. Hosting live Q&As or running polls with questions like, “What’s your biggest challenge with [topic in your niche] right now?” can provide eye-opening insights that shape your content strategy.
 
3️⃣ USE THEIR LANGUAGE IN YOUR CONTENT
Pay close attention to the way your audience talks about their problems. The words and phrases they use should become part of your content. If they call it "side hustle burnout," don’t call it "entrepreneurial fatigue." Using their language makes your content feel relatable and shows that you truly get them.
 
4️⃣ LEARN FROM NEGATIVE FEEDBACK
No one loves criticism, but it’s one of the most valuable listening tools available. If someone points out something they didn’t like about your content, it’s a golden opportunity to improve. Maybe they found your explanation too complicated or wished for more examples—these comments are a roadmap for making better content.
 
5️⃣ PAY ATTENTION TO ENGAGEMENT CUES
Not all listening happens through direct conversation. Sometimes, your audience speaks through their actions. Watch their behavior—what videos do they watch the longest? Where do they drop off? What topics spark the most discussion? Metrics like watch time and comment volume reveal what truly matters to your viewers.
 
Active listening is a game-changer. When you make your audience feel heard and understood, you build trust and loyalty—two things that are far more valuable than any algorithm hack.
 

 
🎯 EXPERIENCE THEIR STRUGGLES: GETTING FIRSTHAND EXPERIENCE
Listening to your audience is powerful, but sometimes, the best way to truly understand their challenges is to experience them firsthand. While you don’t always have to go through everything they do, stepping into their world—even briefly—can provide insights that research alone can’t uncover. It allows you to see their frustrations, discover unexpected roadblocks, and create content that resonates on a deeper level.
 
1️⃣ TRY IT FOR YOURSELF (WHEN POSSIBLE)
If your content revolves around solving a specific problem, it might be helpful to put yourself in your audience’s shoes. Whether it’s tackling a DIY project from scratch, using only free tools, or adopting a beginner’s mindset, experiencing the struggle firsthand can give you a new perspective. This doesn’t mean you have to become an expert in every challenge they face, but testing things out can help you identify pain points you may not have considered.
 
2️⃣ FOLLOW THE JOURNEY FROM SCRATCH
In some cases, it’s worth revisiting the journey with a fresh perspective. If your niche involves learning a skill, starting over with the same resources your audience has can offer valuable insights. This approach allows you to see what works, what doesn’t, and what might be overwhelming for a beginner. It’s a great way to make your content more practical and approachable.
 
3️⃣ OBSERVE IN REAL-LIFE SCENARIOS
Even if you’re not personally going through their struggles, observing your audience in action can be eye-opening. Whether it’s through social media interactions, online forums, or real-world situations, paying attention to their behavior and challenges provides a wealth of insight. Watching their process unfold can highlight common stumbling blocks and help you tailor your content to better meet their needs.
 
4️⃣ LEARN FROM OTHERS’ EXPERIENCES
You don’t always have to experience struggles firsthand to understand them—sometimes, learning from those who have been there is just as valuable. Engaging with your audience, talking to others in your niche, or even reading testimonials and case studies can provide deep insights without requiring you to personally go through the same hurdles.
 
5️⃣ EMPATHY OVER EXPERIENCE
Ultimately, the goal isn’t to experience every challenge firsthand but to develop empathy for those who do. By actively listening, asking thoughtful questions, and paying attention to their frustrations, you can create content that speaks directly to their struggles—even if you haven’t lived them yourself.
 
Taking the time to experience your audience's struggles—when possible—can elevate your content and show your viewers that you truly understand where they’re coming from. But even when firsthand experience isn’t an option, empathy and thoughtful observation can go a long way in helping you connect with your audience.
 

 
🎯 SPEAK THEIR LANGUAGE: DO THEY KNOW THE LINGO?
One of the biggest challenges content creators face is making sure their message actually lands. You might have all the right answers, but if you’re speaking in a way that goes over your audience's head—or worse, feels out of touch—you risk losing them before they even get to the good stuff.
 
Understanding your audience’s level of knowledge and the language they use is key to building a real connection. The way you explain things should feel natural and accessible, not like a lecture or a technical manual. It’s all about meeting them where they are.
 
1️⃣ AVOID INDUSTRY JARGON (UNLESS THEY USE IT TOO)
It’s easy to slip into expert mode and start using technical terms that feel second nature to you, but your audience might not be there yet. If they’re new to the topic, too much jargon can leave them confused or feeling like your content isn’t for them. On the other hand, if your audience is experienced, oversimplifying can feel condescending. The trick is to strike the right balance—use their language, and explain complex ideas in a way that makes sense without dumbing things down.
 
2️⃣ LISTEN FOR CLUES IN THEIR COMMENTS
One of the best ways to figure out how your audience talks about their struggles is by paying attention to their comments and questions. Are they using casual, everyday language, or are they throwing around niche-specific terms? Adopting their vocabulary in your content makes them feel understood and reassures them that they're in the right place.
 
3️⃣ MATCH THEIR TONE
Beyond just words, tone matters too. Is your audience looking for a fun and lighthearted approach, or do they prefer a more serious, no-nonsense style? Matching the way they communicate creates a sense of familiarity and comfort, making it easier for them to connect with your content.
 
4️⃣ USE ANALOGIES AND REAL-WORLD EXAMPLES
If you're covering complex topics, using analogies and examples your audience can relate to is a great way to bridge the gap. Comparing a confusing concept to something they already understand helps simplify things without making them feel lost. Think of it as giving them stepping stones to cross a river instead of expecting them to swim.
 
5️⃣ TEST AND ADJUST
Sometimes, you won’t know if you're speaking their language until you put your content out there. Pay attention to how they respond—are they asking for clarification? Are they engaging more when you explain things in a different way? Treat it as an ongoing process, fine-tuning your approach based on their feedback and reactions.
 
When you speak your audience’s language, you create an environment where they feel seen, heard, and understood. They’ll trust you more, engage with your content longer, and keep coming back for more because they know you get them.
 

 
🎯 BE THE GUIDE, NOT THE HERO: LET THEM LEARN
As a content creator, it’s easy to fall into the trap of positioning yourself as the hero of your channel—the one with all the answers, the expert who’s figured it all out. But the truth is, your audience doesn’t need a hero; they need a guide. They’re the ones on a journey, and your job is to help them navigate it.
 
Think about it—when people come to your content, they’re usually facing a problem, searching for solutions, or looking for inspiration. They don’t want to be dazzled by how much you know; they want to feel empowered to take action themselves. Your role is to equip them with the tools, insights, and encouragement they need to succeed.
 
1️⃣ FOCUS ON EMPOWERING YOUR AUDIENCE
Instead of showcasing what you can do, shift the focus to what they can achieve with your help. Make your content actionable, practical, and easy to follow. When your audience feels like they can take your advice and run with it, they’ll come back for more because they see real value in what you’re offering.
 
2️⃣ SHARE YOUR MISTAKES AND LESSONS
People connect more with authenticity than with perfection. Share your failures, the struggles you faced, and how you overcame them. This not only makes you relatable but also reassures your audience that they’re not alone in their challenges. Your vulnerability becomes their encouragement.
 
3️⃣ ASK QUESTIONS AND INVITE PARTICIPATION
A great guide doesn’t just talk—they listen and invite others to contribute. Encourage your audience to share their own experiences, thoughts, and questions in the comments. Create a dialogue, not a monologue. When they feel involved, they become more invested in the journey you’re guiding them through.
 
4️⃣ PROVIDE NEXT STEPS, NOT JUST INFORMATION
Good guidance isn’t just about delivering knowledge; it’s about providing a clear path forward. Always give your audience something to do after watching your content—whether it’s a simple action step, a mindset shift, or a resource to explore further. When you provide direction, they’ll feel supported and motivated to take action.
 
5️⃣ LET THEM OWN THEIR SUCCESS
The goal isn’t for them to rely on you forever—it’s to equip them with the confidence and tools they need to succeed on their own. Celebrate their progress, highlight their achievements, and remind them that they have what it takes. When your audience feels like the hero of their own journey, they’ll trust you even more as their guide.
 
When you step into the role of a guide rather than a hero, your audience becomes the focus, and your content becomes a resource that empowers them to take meaningful action. That’s the kind of content that builds trust, loyalty, and long-term success.
 

 
🎯 WALKING IN THEIR SHOES MEANS TAKING THEM OFF TOO
Finally, let’s talk about something creators often overlook—sometimes, you need to take off those shoes and give yourself a break. Walking in your audience’s shoes takes empathy, patience, and a lot of emotional energy. And while truly understanding your viewers is a cornerstone of great content, trying to constantly stay in their world can be exhausting.
 
The reality is, if you’re always focused on your audience’s needs, struggles, and expectations, it’s easy to lose sight of your own. Content creation is a marathon, not a sprint, and if you don’t pace yourself, burnout will sneak up before you know it. To keep your content sustainable—and yourself sane—you need to step back now and then to recharge.
 
1️⃣ SET BOUNDARIES TO PROTECT YOUR ENERGY
Engaging with your audience is important, but it doesn’t mean you have to be always on. Set healthy boundaries for when and how you interact with viewers—whether that’s limiting how often you check comments, scheduling specific times for audience engagement, or simply knowing when to log off for the day. Protecting your mental energy ensures you can show up consistently and effectively.
 
2️⃣ REMEMBER WHY YOU STARTED
It’s easy to get caught up in the cycle of serving your audience and chasing metrics, but don’t forget why you started in the first place. Take time to revisit your passions, experiment with content you enjoy, and allow yourself to create for you, not just for the algorithm. When you align with your original purpose, it brings a renewed sense of excitement and energy to your work.
 
3️⃣ TAKE A STEP BACK TO GAIN PERSPECTIVE
Sometimes, the best thing you can do for your audience is to step away and gain fresh insight. Taking breaks allows you to look at your content with fresh eyes, identify what’s working (and what’s not), and make improvements without feeling overwhelmed. Stepping back helps you refocus and come back stronger.
 
4️⃣ PRIORITIZE SELF-CARE
You can’t pour from an empty shoe... or cup... or whatever metaphor works for you. The point is, your well-being matters. Get enough rest, fuel your creativity with hobbies outside of content creation, and make space for the things that bring you joy. A healthier, happier you leads to better, more inspired content.
 
5️⃣ DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP
You don’t have to do it all alone. Whether it’s outsourcing tasks, collaborating with others, or leaning on a support network, having help can make a world of difference. Sharing the load allows you to focus on what you do best—creating meaningful content that serves your audience.
 
At the end of the day, walking in your audience’s shoes is a powerful tool—but knowing when to take them off is just as important. By finding a balance between empathy and self-care, you can sustain your creative journey, continue showing up for your audience, and create content that truly makes an impact.
 

 
🎯 FINDING BALANCE IN THE JOURNEY
In Indian culture, walking barefoot is more than just a habit—it’s a deeply rooted tradition that symbolizes respect, humility, and connection to the sacred. Whether stepping into a temple or a home, removing shoes is a way of acknowledging the purity of the space and staying grounded, both physically and spiritually. It’s a reminder that sometimes, to truly connect, you have to strip away the distractions and feel the earth beneath your feet.
 
As content creators, the same principle applies. Walking in your audience’s shoes is a powerful way to understand their needs and build trust, but it’s equally important to take those shoes off now and then. Constantly immersing yourself in their world can be exhausting, and if you’re not careful, burnout can creep in. Taking a step back allows you to recharge, gain perspective, and continue creating with authenticity and passion.
 
As the saying goes, “You can’t understand someone until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes—but remember, you’re allowed to take them off and walk barefoot every now and then.”
 
So, lace up when it’s time to serve, step back when you need to breathe, and keep moving forward—one step at a time.
 
Hope this helps!
George